The sky is falling!

My whole world started to grumble or so I imagined when mother told me I was being transfered to another school in another state, I immediately felt numb, sick to my stomach, didn't feel motivated  to do nothing. She said it as a matter of fact, didn't bother asking what I thought. Didn't blame her though because I knew she was just relaying the message from my dad. Went around with a long face for the rest of the day.
    Now someone would probably be wondering......"what's the big deal? Its just a change of environment, right?"
But that was exactly my problem, I was darn scared of change, especially after it took me long to stock up my comfort zone, I thought of the few friends I had, the enemies I thought I had, my whole unique formula for surviving in my boarding school and plunged into despair. I kept wondering how I'd start building my niche all over again and I sure wasn't looking forward to that, now imagine using toy bricks to create something as a child, one slight move and it all comes crashing down, recall that feeling?, well that's about how I felt, only it was much worse. I must confess it made me feel resentment towards my parents, especially my father. I was quite familiar with the theory that the only constant thing was change, I never really gave it a thought, they could hold on to their theories while I held on to mine for all I cared. But I had to admit, they were right.
        We all have to face our own fair share of uncertainties, surprises and transitions in our lives, doesn't have to be everyday though. One very annoying and unique feature of change  is that it likes to surprise us. Maybe if it called us to let us  know it was coming, we might arrange a welcome party for it or fly before it arrived, if this was the case, I would surely had opted for the latter.
      Dealing with changes in life can be very tough particularly if we don't have any choice in the matter like I did. In my case, I never wanted to understand what was happening and didn't want to look on the brighter side, felt too bitter to try, maybe because I didn't have anybody I could talk to then. By the time I learnt how to deal with "monsieur change", the damage had already been done, it was no use trying to mend my broken egg but I found I could  make a tasty meal out of it anyway.
    You might be going through what I went through some years ago, a little bit or maybe even a huge shakeup of your world as you know it, well don't panic, the sky ain't falling, here's a little something to prevent you from sliding down that dark tunnel.
     Most important of all, you need to understand the change, ask yourself why its happening, would the situation get any better?(though its pretty much unpredictable). The more you know, the better you understand. Whatever is different from what we know might be tough to accept, and so we are always tempted to hibernate ourselves and think things would be shitty and messed up from then on but it's worth the effort not to think that way because in shutting up yourself, you could also shut up something that would have turned out great. Like I've always find out, no matter how difficult a video game is, as times goes by, you turn out a pro in that game, same in most activities, so just give yourself time to adjust to that change, no pressure. It might be the best thing that ever happened to you. Alan Watts quote on change is usually my favourite on the subject, he says....." The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance".....
So what are waiting for folks, get in line and move with the flow,chachacha.
    

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